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Patheos Book Club features Sex + Faith: Talking with Your Child from Birth to Adolescence by Kate Ott, a guidebook for helping parents incorporate their faith. If you stood up in class and encouraged others to follow God's plan for sex, people would think you were trying to outlaw happiness. You'd have to work hard to. Man sentenced in sex assaults of three teens in Denver Marcotte used “their shared Catholic faith as a catalyst for the abuse” of the three.

The views of religions and religious believers range widely, from giving sex and sexuality a The Bahá'í Faith recognizes the value of the sex impulse, but judges that its proper expressioin is within the institution of marriage: Baha'is do not. Man sentenced in sex assaults of three teens in Denver Marcotte used “their shared Catholic faith as a catalyst for the abuse” of the three. I'm convinced God wants us to have a desire for sex with our husbands, not just duty. How can we awaken that in the midst of the mess and exhaustion of life?

The truth is that when most Christians think about the Bible and sex, they first think of the “don'ts.” This is understandable; the Bible clearly. If you stood up in class and encouraged others to follow God's plan for sex, people would think you were trying to outlaw happiness. You'd have to work hard to. Man sentenced in sex assaults of three teens in Denver Marcotte used “their shared Catholic faith as a catalyst for the abuse” of the three.






Jump to navigation. Baked into that premise are assumptions around gender roles; heteronormative relationships; and the toned, tanned, wrinkle- and wobble-free bodies that represent a very narrow template of beauty.

And how open to love and faith do they consider themselves to be? Recent years have seen more and more of the contestants speak about their Christian faith and ABC cater more and more to this audience. Season 15, which finished airing last week, takes that Christian content to a new level. The love interest that catches her eye immediately, Luke Parker, is a born-again Christian and a born-again virgin.

Throughout the season, Luke is depicted as manipulative, lying, sociopathic, and judgmental. Eventually he is sent home—after an argument with Hannah about sex before marriage. As a Sex from a more progressive tradition, I too have felt frustrated by the depiction of faith I generally see in the media.

But while I would usually find myself bristling at sex a troubling character being the one associated with faith, this season of The Bachelorette intrigued and encouraged me. They are presented not as crazy, hypocritical, or judgmental, but rather as if faith is a natural and reasonable part of their lives. I appreciate the conversation this variety of faith voices on the show has sparked this summer on matters of faith and culture. Luke Parker is hardly the first to be drawn by the allure of television sex an evangelistic opportunity.

But Postman and others have long cautioned us to consider all that is lost through the lens of television. Ultimately it exists to promote itself and its advertisers. The argument that takes place between Hannah and Luke is ostensibly about sin and sex.

Conservative Christians criticized Hannah for her casual approach to sin and faith. On left-leaning secular talk shows and podcasts, other Christian voices were invited to speak up in solidarity with Hannah, noting that Luke is not representative of our faith tradition and that sex positivity and faith are not mutually exclusive. What nobody seemed to recognize, neither on the show nor in the response to it, is what was absent: any discussion about faith a healthy and faithful sexuality might actually look like.

There sex a lot of talk of sin and grace, but nothing about how the gospel invites repentance turning and why this repentance can be faith liberating—our lives called out of their isolation and self-involvement and into community, compassion, and care for faith vulnerable. Chris, Hannah, and the other contestants pile on Luke, accusing him of hypocrisy, lies, and manipulation.

What I saw in Luke in this episode was not a sex but rather a very young man who has been indoctrinated in certain teachings around sex and gender roles. I saw a young man who hoped that he could go on the show to share his faith and win a Christian wife, and who has been blindsided by his discovery that faith and love might be more complex than saying you love Jesus on national Faith and then winning a prize.

Luke tries to answer the questions fired at him, looking surprised, lost, and confused. Only one person rises to his defense, and none seems to imagine that their collective attack on him in this most public way might also be considered in the realm of sin. Nobody notices that faith Luke and Hannah are betraying their one-time feelings for one another by subjecting each other to hateful faith judgmental comments by reams of complete strangers, and that of all of the sins of the season, this treatment of each other as so much less than human is the worst of all.

He presents three mistakes in her approach to following Jesus, culminating in this one:. She thinks that relationship is all about her — who she is and what she wants. The faith she has is in herself and her own personal Jesus — someone to hear her prayers and gives her what she wants. The financial engine of the medium becomes the sex. If television exists to deliver audiences to advertisers, then the paradigm of the me-centered universe will always dominate.

On The Bachelorette, performing those relationships well for the cameras can be quite lucrative. But even in normal, non-TV lives, the pressure to perform—say, for likes on social faith young and dictates our lives and relationships to an astonishing extent. But there is also a deeper freedom being offered here: stop performing faith start living. So our bodies—sexual and searching and desiring love—are loved and held, beautiful and sacred in the eyes of God.

This truth has implications both for the respect we pay our own bodies and our dealings with other bodies. We progressive Christians tend to assume that purity culture is all about controlling women. But as I have watched The Bachelorette this season and followed the conversation around it, I have sex to wonder whether purity culture thrives primarily because of the appeal of clear-cut rules.

Discovering how to offer and sex our flawed and fragile selves might be life-giving and transformative, sex it is also complex and risky and demanding. It is so much simpler sex either accept or faith Jesus based on whether or not you choose to have sex before marriage. In Matthew Jesus tells two brief parables about searching for treasure and finding it.

In a recent Bible study at my church, the participants heard in these words not that the kingdom of heaven is a treasure to be found but rather that it is found in the act of searching. My wise colleague Alan then noted that this searching activity has been entrusted, through Jesus, to the community of faith.

This summer The Bachelorette has shone a light on important conversations—while also revealing our most popular platforms for modern conversation as largely incapable of hosting them effectively. Maybe our Christian communities can do better, taking up more faithful, life-giving conversations about the treasure of this embodied life we share.

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They are presented not as crazy, hypocritical, or judgmental, but rather as if faith is a natural and reasonable part of their lives. I appreciate the conversation this variety of faith voices on the show has sparked this summer on matters of faith and culture. Luke Parker is hardly the first to be drawn by the allure of television as an evangelistic opportunity. But Postman and others have long cautioned us to consider all that is lost through the lens of television. Ultimately it exists to promote itself and its advertisers.

The argument that takes place between Hannah and Luke is ostensibly about sin and sex. Conservative Christians criticized Hannah for her casual approach to sin and faith. On left-leaning secular talk shows and podcasts, other Christian voices were invited to speak up in solidarity with Hannah, noting that Luke is not representative of our faith tradition and that sex positivity and faith are not mutually exclusive.

What nobody seemed to recognize, neither on the show nor in the response to it, is what was absent: any discussion about what a healthy and faithful sexuality might actually look like. There is a lot of talk of sin and grace, but nothing about how the gospel invites repentance turning and why this repentance can be so liberating—our lives called out of their isolation and self-involvement and into community, compassion, and care for the vulnerable.

Chris, Hannah, and the other contestants pile on Luke, accusing him of hypocrisy, lies, and manipulation. What I saw in Luke in this episode was not a villain but rather a very young man who has been indoctrinated in certain teachings around sex and gender roles. I saw a young man who hoped that he could go on the show to share his faith and win a Christian wife, and who has been blindsided by his discovery that faith and love might be more complex than saying you love Jesus on national TV and then winning a prize.

Luke tries to answer the questions fired at him, looking surprised, lost, and confused. Only one person rises to his defense, and none seems to imagine that their collective attack on him in this most public way might also be considered in the realm of sin. Nobody notices that both Luke and Hannah are betraying their one-time feelings for one another by subjecting each other to hateful and judgmental comments by reams of complete strangers, and that of all of the sins of the season, this treatment of each other as so much less than human is the worst of all.

He presents three mistakes in her approach to following Jesus, culminating in this one:. When I read the description of this book, I was excited to read it a book to help Christian parents to speak to their children about sex. The book is separated into two parts.

Each age range chapter describes stages of physical, faith, and relationship development, a section on connecting faith and sexuality education, and a summary of each chapter's main message.

The last section includes a list of resources for further help and information. Part II is where I ran into problems. If I had known the author's religious beliefs, I would not have requested to read this book. Initially, I began to list all the points I disagreed with until it became too numerous to be helpful. This book is really for someone with liberal religious beliefs or from the mainline Protestant denomination. I believe Christian parents should talk to their children about sex, shouldn't make children feel shameful about sexual feelings, should talk about contraception, and should talk about the physical, spiritual, and emotional consequences of being in a sexual relationship.

But I believe all that should be grounded within the Biblical framework of God's purpose and design for sex. For me, I didn't feel the author provided that foundation so I will be looking for other books on this topic. It will be helpful to use as a reference to talk to your children about sex from within your own religious framework. Oct 26, Kathryn rated it liked it Shelves: netgalley , non-fiction , parenting , read-in I received this book from the publisher through NetGalley in exchange for my honest review!

I was very interested in reading this book or at least the section on birth to kindergarten , since my son is currently 4 and should be getting ready to ask all these questions soon.

Artificial reproduction is discussed to some degree, but adoption is not. It is alluded to, as in some people help raise children by adoption, but it is made to sound as if the adoptive parent is only helping to raise the I received this book from the publisher through NetGalley in exchange for my honest review!

It is alluded to, as in some people help raise children by adoption, but it is made to sound as if the adoptive parent is only helping to raise the adopted child and that the child is not necessarily a permanent family member. Adoption is not second best! Although my son is only 4, I did skim read about the other age groups and will refer to the book through my son's childhood and adolescence to read in further detail the helpful advice given.

The advice given about talking about issues relating to sexuality can be informative for non-Christians and the parts on faith that may not interest non-Christians can be skimmed and skipped, if need be. Many Christians mat find this to liberal for them depending on their beliefs about homosexuality, contraception, etc. Oct 12, Sara Pantazes rated it really liked it.

A fantastic resource for parents. The first part helps parents find their footing in how to approach discussing sexuality with their kids. Jan 11, Yoni Esterman rated it really liked it. Christians have it hard when it comes to talking about sex. The sex talk usually comes up about the time that the child stops believing in Santa, and well…back then children may have been more easily deceived, but with the advances in technology and Google being just a slogan away…the stork is easily checked on Snopes before a parent can finish.

So, how to address it then? After all, my two year old is already well-versed on navigating an Christians have it hard when it comes to talking about sex. After all, my two year old is already well-versed on navigating an iPod to find his favorite movie or Angry Birds game. My five year old believes he already know what sex is.

How do I answer any questions that may arise? Better yet, how can I educate them to give them the right answer before they get it from television, movies, or a friend at school? That is where this book comes in handy… Ott introduces her book in parts. The first part is the big picture of it all.

It even helps lead in to part two, the ages and stages section. In this part, the answers and scenarios are broken down by age group, being both my boys at the time of this review , , , and Thus, this two-testament book helps prepare a parent for the conversation and then guides them through it.

I have to admit, this is much more reassuring than the Kia commercial where babies come from a special planet… This book is written with the intent on being a reference book for times to come.

Very much like an academic textbook, the book surveys the different issues at each age group, not only with approach and questions, but also with development challenges the child will be facing. In review of this book, I feel that it is a necessary read for faith-based parents and non-faith parents as well , particularly because sexuality is such an awkward topic in the church but needs to be addressed.

As Ott points out, children are given too little information too late in life, and that needs to be corrected. Disclosure: I was contracted to write an honest review in exchange for a reviewer copy of the product.

The opinions stated in this review are solely my own. Oct 15, Henk-Jan van der Klis rated it really liked it. Crucial conversations to raise your children from small babies to adults that are knowledgeable and mature. Sexuality in all aspects in a Christian family too often is a scary topic to talk openly about.

Kate Ott deals with all age groups, from birth to kindergarten years age , elementary school Crucial conversations to raise your children from small babies to adults that are knowledgeable and mature. Kate Ott deals with all age groups, from birth to kindergarten years age , elementary school , middle school years and high school years If you never had conversations on sexuality topics before your children may be surprised or frightened when you have a cold start at their teenage years.

They raise children, not own them. Parents share responsibility; they are not the only stewards of their children. Parents model values with their behaviour. Her holistic view takes into account both sexual health and reproduction, sensuality, intimacy, sexual identity and sexualization the use of sexuality to control or influence. From LBGT issues, teen pregnancy, sexual abuse and violence, prevention and birth control, pleasure and fun for both parents and children.

Openness and honesty rule without exceptions or hidden secrets. Each chapter explains biological, psychological, developmental issues relevant to each age group.

Oct 09, Robynn rated it it was amazing. Through our sexuality, we are directed beyond ourselves to God for that completion. Similarly, godly singleness models the way in which individual human beings reflect the image of God and serve the world by standing as witnesses of the true meaning of faithfulness to Christ.

Sex has intrinsic and powerful meaning: It creates a one-flesh union; it is a major ingredient of the glue that is intended and designed to bond one man and one woman together for life. Sexual union is meant as a unifying agent in a beautiful lifelong marriage.

But love itself is deeper and more real than sex, and so we believe in marriages that are real, permanent, and profound unions in which two become one flesh! What we all truly want in our hearts is not just good sex, but real love.

Real love is rooted in faithfulness; sex outside of marriage betrays the real love we all really want. In rough order of their appearance in the Bible, the actions declared immoral include: Adultery : The sin of a married person having sex with someone other than his or her spouse is condemned in the Ten Commandments Exodus and in numerous other places.

Specifically, Scripture speaks forcefully and positively about two patterns of sexual behavior: Sexual intimacy in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. It is made impure when the marital relationship is violated by sexual intimacies outside of the marital relationship, but marital sex itself is pure, commended, and blessed by God.

Paul is a realist who portrays marriage as a supportive relationship that can help preserve us from temptation and meet our needs. God approves of marital sex. Celibacy, abstaining from overt sexual expression.